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Why is it okay for a guy to be "bisexual" but not be tagged as "gay?" Many guys do circle jerks, cocksuck each other, beat each other off and sometimes buttfuck and it is "okay" because they are "bi." However, liking gay sex and "being gay" is seen as two separate categories, why is that
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This question as been raised many times and you have put it accross well; i can only reply from my persective/opinion
The term "gay" in the context of sexuality is generaly used to decribe a single sex person
Whereas the term "Bi" in same explanation is used to describe someone who likes the sexual experience of both sexes and is generally greedy when it comes to sex
Simple really
but before she came a long I did think I wanted a boyfriend. i happy to think that it did not mater if they was a guy or a girl as long as we like each other a wont be together that all that matters
Put me in a room with 2 other guys alone - and I probably wont be interested.
For me its about sexual exploration, rather than... liking one biological sex, or gender. I like women, I am biologically attracted to women, but because I am open minded enough to suck or fuck a dick - does that make me gay even though I am in a stable long term relation ship with a female? I can imagine TONS of people would say yeah your gay? I would not say so since I have no interest in being in a relationship with a man, or being in 1 on 1 sex with a man.
I personally think that being openly bi is harder than being openly gay. I appreciate some people may flame that, particularly if you live somewhere that is very conservative in its treatment of gay people, but as a 29 yo bi guy living in London I can tell you I have happy straight friends and happy gay friends, but while we are out there I know no-one who is publicly bi.
Is that right? Well who is to judge, but society clearly struggles with the concept - though I would say that it has become quite common for women to be open about having had experiences with other women, but you never hear that about men.
So as a bi guy what does it mean - well I do not think it is a simple 50/50 thing or that I am really gay but conform to society. I am in a happy heterosexual relationship in which we care for each other emotionally and sexually as lovers do, but I know that sexually I do like to play with a cock too. Does that mean I want a relationship with a guy? Simple answer no - I do not have the same emotional attachment, am not into kissing guys and so it is purely a part of my sexual make-up and nothing more.
We are all different, but I reckon I am a pretty representative European bi guy.
Have fun no matter which sexual organ it may be with
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