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so she doesnt need sex more than once a week, are there things you could do so shed be more up for it?
couples councling? would she be ok with open marriage?
are your kids always present? have a weekend childfree getaway?
did you have sex more often before kids?
do you work to much? split house chores?
Also am bi-sexual male that loves a good make-out and wild sex.
It is a slippery slope!!
In such a situation perhaps the best thing is to maximize the quality of the sex you have once a week -- i.e., make sure it's really good for the both of you.
I’m in the same boat. My wife has no interest in sex anymore. She says it’s a hormonal thing now that she’s older. I can’t even get her to stroke or suck me off and she doesn’t want me to watch porn. It’s ridiculous.
I’m in the same boat. My wife has no interest in sex anymore. She says it’s a hormonal thing now that she’s older. I can’t even get her to stroke or suck me off and she doesn’t want me to watch porn. It’s ridiculous.
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She's fucking your friends!
I’m in the same boat. My wife has no interest in sex anymore. She says it’s a hormonal thing now that she’s older. I can’t even get her to stroke or suck me off and she doesn’t want me to watch porn. It’s ridiculous.
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She's fucking your friends!
You think so? One of my friends is well hung. I do think she glanced at his bulge once. He was wearing shorts and it was pretty obvious. We were watching a football game on TV when she came home. That wouldn’t make her cheat. I did see his cock in the showers at the gym. It was quite thick and he wasn’t even hard. Way bigger than mine though. I don’t think that’s it. She’s not the cheating type. I think she’s just older and not interested in sex anymore. She’s always said size doesn’t matter.
Married 24 years and in the last 3 years I may have had sex with my wife twice. She just isn’t interested anymore and I would not feel right cheating on her. It would destroy her. So I live out my fantasies online, one nut at a time!
All these replies have a common denominator, the wife isn't down for sex
and she knows you won't do anything, she isn't even worried about another
woman taking her place, even when she's denying you sex, ?????
All these replies have a common denominator, the wife isn't down for sex
and she knows you won't do anything, she isn't even worried about another
woman taking her place, even when she's denying you sex, ?????
she just lay there?
he cheats?
men stop getting married if they think life stays the same
(to bad men cant take over the womans bodily functions)
All these replies have a common denominator, the wife isn't down for sex
and she knows you won't do anything, she isn't even worried about another
woman taking her place, even when she's denying you sex, ?????
she just lay there?
he cheats?
men stop getting married if they think life stays the same
(to bad men cant take over the womans bodily functions)
I'm spoiled, I have a wife with no bodily function issues, she's horny all the time
and knew from the beginning, I had a big appetite but thought that was a plus.
I know that isn't a normal/average relationship over long term but it's working for us.
All these replies have a common denominator, the wife isn't down for sex
and she knows you won't do anything, she isn't even worried about another
woman taking her place, even when she's denying you sex, ?????
she just lay there?
he cheats?
men stop getting married if they think life stays the same
(to bad men cant take over the womans bodily functions)
I'm spoiled, I have a wife with no bodily function issues, she's horny all the time
and knew from the beginning, I had a big appetite but thought that was a plus.
I know that isn't a normal/average relationship over long term but it's working for us.
which you are obviously not
bodily functions= that women deal with whole life
The lack of sex crippled my own sexual identity to such an extent that the stress made me sick. It's contributed to the congestive heart failure I live with today. People who are outside of our relationship are quick to suggest (as some of those in this thread have) that I should shit or get off the pot: If I can't handle it, i should walk out of the marriage. Those cynical, disrespectful comments invariably come from women who apparently feel offended that such a lifetime disappointment even exists. These people are clueless, ethically lazy and intellectually dishonest. They elect to ignore pain when they trip over it, because for a male to suffer pain in a relationship doesn't comport with their world view.
In my case, after years of attempting to discuss the situation (and triggering a response that at times became violent), my spouse eventually became healthy enough for us to have an honest conversation. I asked for her understanding, for her to accept that a sexual identity was part of my very being, and that the loss of it had done me harm. I acknowledged with respect that her PTSD from prior events (before we met) truly prevented her from participating in sex at any level. I accepted that without reservation and went to pains to make that clear.
I asked for her support and permission to find a source of sexual relief outside our relationship. With trepidation, she gave me that permission. After that happened, an interesting thing occurred. Although I had believed I had put all this behind me, I still felt an enormous amount of anger, rage and pain fall away as if they had never existed. Our life and relationship has become far better than previously. We have rediscovered each other's sense of humor that seemed to have been lost. And this has happened without my having taken advantage of her permission to find a FWB.
So think about working this out with your spouse. Consider couples counseling. If nothing else works, think about the approach I was able finally to take. None of us knows what the future may bring but life is much better than it has been for years without resolution.
The lack of sex crippled my own sexual identity to such an extent that the stress made me sick. It's contributed to the congestive heart failure I live with today. People who are outside of our relationship are quick to suggest (as some of those in this thread have) that I should shit or get off the pot: If I can't handle it, i should walk out of the marriage. Those cynical, disrespectful comments invariably come from women who apparently feel offended that such a lifetime disappointment even exists. These people are clueless, ethically lazy and intellectually dishonest. They elect to ignore pain when they trip over it, because for a male to suffer pain in a relationship doesn't comport with their world view.
In my case, after years of attempting to discuss the situation (and triggering a response that at times became violent), my spouse eventually became healthy enough for us to have an honest conversation. I asked for her understanding, for her to accept that a sexual identity was part of my very being, and that the loss of it had done me harm. I acknowledged with respect that her PTSD from prior events (before we met) truly prevented her from participating in sex at any level. I accepted that without reservation and went to pains to make that clear.
I asked for her support and permission to find a source of sexual relief outside our relationship. With trepidation, she gave me that permission. After that happened, an interesting thing occurred. Although I had believed I had put all this behind me, I still felt an enormous amount of anger, rage and pain fall away as if they had never existed. Our life and relationship has become far better than previously. We have rediscovered each other's sense of humor that seemed to have been lost. And this has happened without my having taken advantage of her permission to find a FWB.
So think about working this out with your spouse. Consider couples counseling. If nothing else works, think about the approach I was able finally to take. None of us knows what the future may bring but life is much better than it had been for years without resolution.